Resolve To Be Happy

Make Happiness Your Resolution

Why put up with misery?

You can be happy or happier right now, no matter who you are, where you are, what is happening to you and around you.  Make Happiness Your Resolution.

We'll be posting simple, powerful, effective steps to build greater happiness into your life from our Happiness Habit sites and research here over the coming weeks.

What do you have to loose?  Why not give it a try?  

Begin Here  - And then click the item to the right of the word Main:
 « Make Happiness Your Resolution | Main | Set A Happiness Baseline »   
to work through the Steps, first through the most recent. 

The postings appear in reverse order with the newest on top.

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Avoid Unnecessary Negativity

Step Seven:  Avoid The Fault Finding Feel Goods and
Avoid All UnNecessary, Non-Productive Negativity

Happiness comes as much from what we definitely decide we won't do as well as from all the positive actions we take to build greater happiness and spiritual success into our lives.

Avoiding The Fault Finding Feel Goods and Avoiding All UnNecessary, Non-Productive Negativity are two major steps we can take to move misery out of our lives.

The Fault Finding Feel Goods are all of those terribly tempting tendencies to judge, criticize, blame and complain. We're elevating ourselves by putting bad things or people down but we are still focusing on negatives.  That's not the way to happiness and spiritual success.

Saying what we don't want does not communicate what we do want.  Calling something bad does not describe what is good.  Complaining about something wrong does not convey what is good.

Criticism focuses on negatives and leaves people hurt and confused about what they should do to improve.

A key to happiness is to Recognize the Fault Finding Feel Goods and UnNecessary, Non-Productive Negativity when you encounter them, Rapidly Reject them and Redirect Your Time and Attention to activities and objectives that improve the situation and bring happiness and spiritual success. 

Avoiding The Fault Finding Feel Goods and Avoiding All UnNecessary, Non-Productive Negativity are powerful builders of happiness in our lives.

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YOUR Best

Step Six:  YOUR Best

Can you think of a day when you felt absolutely wonderful for no reason at all?

You don't know why you felt so good, you just did. You were confident, energetic, exuberant, your mind was focused, your thinking sharp, you knew you could conquer the world. Do you remember a day like that?

Remember that day and those wonderful, excited, happy feelings in vivid, vibrant detail. Feel the excitement, the happiness, the power, your confidence and recall your clear, acute thinking.  Remember those wonderful feelings, relish them and recreate them in your mind.

Continue to enjoy and embrace those confident, wonderful feelings and then project them. Radiate confident, wonderful, happy feelings.

If you're doing this genuinely and sincerely you'll begin to recreate that wonderful happy state in your mind.  The more you practice it, the faster, easier and more powerful the process becomes. 

You'll find you'll be able to step into that magical, wonderful, confident, happy state whenever you wish.  Practice it and enjoy it.  Know how to step into your magic zone when ever you want or need to feel and perform your best.

Always trying to do YOUR best, feel YOUR best and be at your best all of the time is a powerful Happiness Habit.  The key is YOUR best and not someone else's best. By focusing on doing good things and performing well, we feel good. 

This illustrates The First Law of Happiness:  Our Focus Determines Our Feelings.   When we focus our time and attention on things we think are bad, we feel sad, angry or anxious. 

When we focus our time and attention on good things we feel excited, enthusiastic, elevated.  Focusing on doing good makes us feel good.

We will never feel good by focusing on how badly we feel or on how poorly we think we are doing.

Continually try to do YOUR best, feel YOUR best and be at YOUR best all of the time.   You'll feel good and YOUR best will continue to get better.

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Define Happiness

Step Five:  Define Happiness and a Happy Life

Without any reading or research, define and write down your definition Happiness and explain what Happiness means to you.

Then write down your definition of A Happy Life.   Keep both definitions in your Happiness file or folder.

Warning: This is very hard for most people.  Dictionary definitions, encyclopedias, Internet searches and psychology references don't provide satisfying or meaningful answers.

How can you expect to be happy or happier if you don't know what happiness is, what a happy life is or how to achieve them? Our happiness is left to chance and circumstance.

Don't worry, we'll define Happiness and a Happy Life in later sections.   What's important is for you to find definitions of a Happiness and a Happy Life that work for you.  Here's why...

Too many people chase after material Success thinking Success will bring then happiness and then they are often very disappointed. Happiness and Success are two very different things.

There are lots of very successful people who are not especially happy and who don't have happy families or work environments.   Michael Jackson comes to mind.

Achievement and accomplishment are important components of a happy life, but by themselves they do not always bring happiness.

Happiness and material Success are two very different things.   

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Complete The Happiness Quiz

Step Four:  Complete The Happiness Quiz

To jump start your personal happiness inquiry, take The Happiness Quiz.  This is the same quiz used in our seminars and published in the appendix of How To Live A Happy Life - 101 Ways To Be Happier.  Print a copy and keep it in your Happiness file.

Take some time to think about your answers, but don't agonize over your responses.  Your knowledge, thoughts and ideas about happiness will grow and change over time.

Your answers to earlier Steps 1-4 will help speed you through the Quiz.  Merely reference or note where your answers are and move on to the next question.

There are no right or wrong answers.  The goal is to help you identify your true feelings and beliefs about happiness for yourself right now.  Keep your answers confidential in your Happiness file.

Everyone wants to be happy or happier but most of us don't think about our own happiness very much.  The Happiness Quiz accelerates this process.

Happiness is like any other personal goal, you have to know what happiness is and how happiness works in order to decide what steps to take to be happier yourself.

Building Happiness and a Happy Life becomes just like improving any other personal, professional, sports or musical skill. Once you know what works and understand why it works so well, you practice, polish and perfect your skills until you become expert.

The Happiness Habit building process is rewarding and self reinforcing.  You feel good and happy so you want practice it more and do more.  The goal is to practice the skills until they become natural, authentic, automatic Happiness Habits for you.

You embrace and enjoy it because it makes you feel good and helps you to perform your very best.

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Study Happy People

Step Three:  Study Happy People

Think about all the happy people you know or have known in your life, what are they like?  What qualities and  characteristics distinguish them from the rest of us?  How are they different?  What do they do differently?   Why do you think they are so happy?

Make a list of these especially happy people and keep it in your Happiness file or folder. Note their special skills, qualities and characteristics.

Make this an ongoing process.  Add notes as new ideas and insights come to you.

How much of their happiness do you think comes from external sources such as money, education or a prosperous professional career?

How much of their happiness do you think comes from internal skills, values and perspectives such as faith, confidence, optimism, stability, integrity, resourcefulness or flexibility?

Consider asking people you know about happiness, its sources and what they think is important to building a happy life. 

If you are uncomfortable with this process try this:

Say, "You seem to be an especially happy person, is that true? Are you generally happy?" 

If they say yes, say "Happiness is a special interest of mine.  What do you think is important to happiness and a happy life?" 

Record your thoughts and reactions to these discussions in your file.

Ask yourself, "What can I learn from this?  What skills can I add to my life to be a happier person?"

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Set A Happiness Baseline

Step Two:  Set A Happiness Baseline

On your own, without doing any special reading or research, think about what steps you can take and what you can do to be happy or happier right now, given who you are and where you are.  Don't spend more than four to six hours doing this.

Start a personal Happiness file or folder to keep your writings safe and  confidential.  Choose a means to retain clippings, articles, your thoughts and ideas in a way that is good for you, whether it be a manila folder, and old envelope, a netbook or pda.

Write down and record your thoughts and ideas about the specific steps you can take to be happy or happier right now in clear, simple statements and keep them in your file. Be specific and realistic. Here are some examples:

"I will be happier if I stop getting involved in family arguments."  "I will be happier and feel better about myself if I stop binging on bad foods, exercise and eat a  healthy diet."  "I will be happier if I can shake those bad moods."  "I will be happier and feel better about myself if I loose weight."  "I will be happier if I get a better job."

Your understanding of happiness, how happiness works and your skills at building happiness will expand dramatically and be enhanced as you move through the Resolve To Be Happy™ process.  This first step provides a beginning baseline to gauge your progress.

Look at your list and determine which are external changes like exercising more, eating differently, loosing weight, avoiding bad situations or learning new skills versus internal changes within you, like adopting new habits, changing your perspectives or managing your feelings differently.

Spend some time (no more than 24-48 hours) on this alone, thinking and writing about it until you have clearly recorded and stated your thoughts, ideas, feelings, goals, insights, aspirations and desires clearly and succinctly.

Then answer the question:  What are the biggest barriers and greatest obstacles to achieving these goals?  What's holding me back?  What has defeated me in the past?  Briefly state the barriers, obstacles and lapses that have frustrated you in the past.

How much do you want to be happy or happier?  How much do you want to bring greater happiness to your work or family?  How hard are you willing to work for greater happiness?  What are you willing to give up or put off to be happier?  Record you responses, put them in your file.

If you don't think happiness is worth the effort or if you don't think you can do anything to be happier, Stop Right Now.  Don't waste your time.  You don't think there is anything you can learn to make your life better and you don't want to try.  Stay stuck where you are. 

The rest of us will move on to much happier, more fulfilling, satisfying lives.

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Resolve To Be Happy

Step One: Resolve To Be Happy

Life is so much more fun, enjoyable and rewarding when we are Up, energized and happy.   We are truly at our best and able to perform our best when we are happy. Why live any other way?  Why not try to be happy all of the time? 

Why put up with mind numbing misery, continual malaise, malcontent or pervasive meaninglessness?

We are far more confident, creative and caring when we are happy.  Why let bad moods or bad situations drag us down, distract us and detract from our ability to enjoy life and perform well?

Resolving to be happy means deciding and becoming determined to make changes that end the pain and bring greater happiness and spiritual success into our lives.

Conscious change is much more successful and powerful when we decide we definitely must do things differently because we are no longer willing to accept or put up with the way things are. 

Deciding to deliberately detach from bad situations and discard bad habits of thought and action allows us to embrace and enjoy new ways of living and viewing the world that brings greater happiness.

Everyone wants to be happy or happier.  Happiness doesn't come from wishing for it.   Most of us have no idea of what we can do to bring greater happiness into our lives.  We'll explain exactly what to do and why it works so well.  How do we know? 

Happiness Habit  interviewed and studied happy people from all different walks of life and life situations.  We identified the key values, beliefs, habits, ideal and boundaries that bring greater happiness and spiritual success.  We call these key qualities Happiness Habits.

If you decide to adopt and apply qualities know to bring happiness, you too can be happy or happier.

Resolving To Be Happy means consciously recognizing and rejecting bad thoughts, actions and feelings that cause misery as well as embracing new perspectives and skills that bring greater happiness.

Are you ready to Resolve To Be Happy, to reject the old and embrace the new?   Follow the steps outlined above.  Share your thoughts and ideas, comment on your progress.

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